I have a closest that’s exploding with clothes. The problem? A lot of them feel like they belong to someone else. I know I bought those pieces thinking they’d suit my style, but they always felt like I was playing dress-up. Now, I have to work up the courage to cull a lot of that, admitting to myself that they’ll never be me. It shouldn’t be so hard, but it is.
The only thing that’ll make it easier is knowing I can then fill the closet again, this time with clothes meant for Quinn, not that other person I thought I was for a long time. And I have to say, men’s clothes kick ass, and not just because I feel more myself in them. Here’s why:
- Pockets – I’ve seen a video on Facebook recently about the way women get screwed in the pockets department. While a lot of people think it’s funny, let me tell you, it’s totally the truth. On days when I wear women’s pants, there’s a constant battle for pocket space. Most notably, my work pants, which have front pockets so shallow my fingers won’t even fit in them. Compare that to the men’s jeans I wore to a hockey game recently, where I was able to hide a beer bottle with room to spare. I freaking love pockets!
- Shirts – I’ve had a lifelong struggle with shirts. They are usually either too short, hitting me right above my navel (not quite crop length, not that I have any business wearing crop tops) or at the widest part of my hips, which is horrible for so many reasons. Men’s T-shirts were actually my first venture into men’s clothing. Designers of men’s clothes realize that men are taller; designers of women’s clothes (I’m convinced) think every woman is 5’4″ or under. I’m no longer spending my days tugging on the hem of my shirt so I’m not showing everyone skin they don’t want to see.
- Shoes – This is a biggie. I have wide feet. Even buying wide shoes, it was rare to find shoes that fit me from toes to heel, plus anyone who’s gone shoe shopping knows the pain of finding the perfect shoes that aren’t available in wide width. Finally, I can wear kickass shoes that are comfy!
I’ve started a board on Pinterest of men’s outfits I’d love to wear someday. I think it’s safe to say there’s a distinct style coming to life.
I agree with you. I prefer mens short pants and shoes over women’s. I also want to say I love your books. Your style of writing is amazing and I hope to see more from you in the future. I love ready about people who are able to live their lives proudly while bluring the gender lines. I’ve struggled my whole life. I identify as female but I have periods where I don’t feel female yet not male either. Your writing makes me feel better about how I see myself.
Thank you for the kind words! Do you and live proud!